Today I have a doctor’s appointment to follow-up on what happened to me last week. This was my suggestion, not the doctor’s. Now I’m starting to feel stupid for suggesting this appointment because I feel like I’m going in there like I know more than they do because I research this on the internet. I also know what experiences my sister’s have had and I know what they did to “fix” them. How do I not go in there and say “this is what happened and this is what I think we need to do to fix it.” I can’t do that, they are the professionals. Are they going to look at me like I have a horn growing out of my head because I’m going in there after 1 known and another suspected miscarriage? Am I being one of those paranoid people that’s over-thinking this? It’s a known fact that 50% of fertilized eggs will not make it. However, I’m 35, I need to figure out why my eggs aren’t making it because time is running out!
Anyway, I just need some assurance that I’m not being “one of those people”. Thanks for listening to my babble.
Go in there and tell them whatever you feel like you need to tell them. Blab out everything in your head if need be!
I need you, Beck! You are such a better talker than I am.
Think about it this way. A Dr. sees say 100 people a week. When they do get a break they take off. I can assure you it isnt sitting in some class learning something new. So, use the net to your advantage. Go in there with information and lay it all out. You wouldnt be the first and wont be the last. Good Luck and speak your mind.
For what it’s worth, I agree. I feel funny questioning sometimes, too…and sometimes the Dr.’s aren’t very receptive to my questions/comments. But this is your life, not theirs. I’d ask every question and point out every bit of information I could. If your doctor doesn’t like it, get a new doctor.
You might just have that little tidbit of information that will solve the problem. Or you might say something that would trigger him/her to think differently and take the right path to solve the problem. You never know!
Thanks, Matt.
Well, the appointment was a complete waste of my time. They did do a blood test to see if I even go pg but they were doubtful that I did. Why? Because they are stupid. I won’t get into all the details because it makes me so mad I could cry. It just really sucks that I live in this tiny town and I think I’m going to have to drive over an hour to find a doctor that’s willing to help their patient.
Only you know your body well enough to judge what is going on in there. I know there aren’t any special words that any of us can say other than we are here for you, and I am praying for you everyday, that it will finally happen for you and Steve. Don’t feel stupid, everyone is different and medical science doesn’t differenciate between all of us. Just because it is the “norm” in what they see doesn’t give anyone the right to discredit your feelings and observations. Like your Mom said, now that you know it can happen, keep trying, don’t ever give up on this!
Hugs and prayers,
Stace